Steinunn J\u00f3hannesd\u00f3ttir og Katr\u00ed\u00adn Jakobsd\u00f3ttir t\u00f3kust \u00e1 um hj\u00f3nabandshugtaki\u00f0 \u00ed\u00ad sj\u00f3nvarpinu \u00ed\u00ad g\u00e6r. Steinunn hefur veri\u00f0, \u00e1samt EInari Karli manni s\u00ed\u00adnum og 2-3 prestum, har\u00f0asti andst\u00e6\u00f0ingur \u00feess a\u00f0 samkynhneig\u00f0ir f\u00e1i a\u00f0 ganga \u00ed\u00ad hj\u00f3naband. \u00deau hj\u00f3nin hafa \u00ed\u00ad vi\u00f0leitni sinni til a\u00f0 byggja br\u00fdr yfir til andst\u00e6\u00f0inga sinna m.a. stungi\u00f0 upp \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed\u00ad a\u00f0 b\u00fai\u00f0 ver\u00f0i til hugtaki\u00f0 „hommaband“ yfir hj\u00faskap samkynhneig\u00f0ra karla.<\/p>\n
N\u00fa v\u00e6ri au\u00f0velt a\u00f0 afgrei\u00f0a m\u00e1lflutning Steinunnar sem gamaldags kreddur – en \u00fea\u00f0 v\u00e6ri of billegt. \u00dea\u00f0 er engin \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0a til a\u00f0 skj\u00f3ta s\u00e9r \u00feannig undan alv\u00f6ru r\u00f6kr\u00e6\u00f0um.<\/p>\n
Eftir \u00fev\u00ed\u00ad sem m\u00e9r s\u00fdnist, eru r\u00f6k Steinunnar gegn hj\u00f3nab\u00f6ndum samkynhneig\u00f0ra einkum \u00fer\u00ed\u00ad\u00fe\u00e6tt:<\/p>\n
i) A\u00f0 tala um „hj\u00f3n“ e\u00f0a „hj\u00f3naband“ \u00fear sem a\u00f0ilarnir eru ekki af sitthvoru kyni, s\u00e6rir m\u00e1lkennd Steinunnar.<\/p>\n
ii) Me\u00f0 sl\u00ed\u00adku v\u00e6ri fe\u00f0raveldi\u00f0 enn frekar a\u00f0 r\u00e1\u00f0ast gegn konum – \u00fear sem \u00fe\u00e6r v\u00e6ru ger\u00f0ar \u00f3\u00fearfar \u00ed\u00ad hj\u00f3nabandinu.<\/p>\n
iii) Megintilgangur hj\u00f3nabandsins er framlei\u00f0sla \u00e1 b\u00f6rnum og \u00fear d\u00e6mast samkynhneig\u00f0ir sj\u00e1lfkrafa \u00far leik.<\/p>\n
Fyrsti punkturinn sn\u00fdst fyrst og fremst um m\u00e1lkennd og smekk. Um sl\u00ed\u00adkt er tilgangsl\u00ed\u00adti\u00f0 a\u00f0 deila.<\/p>\n
Annar punkturinn er veikur – enda m\u00e1 sn\u00faa d\u00e6minu vi\u00f0 og segja a\u00f0 allt eins s\u00e9 veri\u00f0 a\u00f0 gera karlmenn \u00f3\u00fearfa \u00ed\u00ad hj\u00f3nabandinu, \u00fear sem lesb\u00ed\u00adur eiga \u00ed\u00ad hlut. Feministar\u00f6kin eiga \u00fev\u00ed\u00ad t\u00e6plega vi\u00f0.<\/p>\n
En sta\u00f0n\u00e6mumst \u00fe\u00e1 vi\u00f0 \u00feri\u00f0ja punktinn – sem raunar vir\u00f0ist vera \u00feungami\u00f0jan \u00ed\u00ad m\u00e1lflutningi sk\u00e1ldkonunnar:\u00c2\u00a0 a\u00f0 hj\u00f3nabandi\u00f0 s\u00e9 fyrst og fremst barnaframlei\u00f0slustofnun.<\/p>\n
\u00dat fr\u00e1 \u00feeirri n\u00e1lgun \u00e6tti raunar ekki a\u00f0 vera neitt vandam\u00e1l fyrir Steinunni og sko\u00f0anasystkin hennar a\u00f0 fallast \u00e1 a\u00f0 lesb\u00ed\u00adur gangi \u00ed\u00ad hj\u00f3naband. Me\u00f0 n\u00fat\u00ed\u00admat\u00e6knifrj\u00f3vgunum geta lesb\u00ed\u00adur h\u00e6glega punda\u00f0 \u00fat b\u00f6rnum eins og gagnkynhneig\u00f0ar kynsystur \u00feeirra. Raunar g\u00e6tu \u00fe\u00e6r eignast tv\u00f6falt fleiri b\u00f6rn en \u00f6nnur p\u00f6r – sem hlyti a\u00f0 gle\u00f0ja barnelskt \u00dej\u00f3\u00f0kirkjuf\u00f3lk.<\/p>\n
Ef sj\u00e1lfur barnsbur\u00f0urinn e\u00f0a barnsf\u00e6\u00f0ingin er meginmarkmi\u00f0i\u00f0 me\u00f0 hj\u00f3nabandi \u00e6tti ekkert a\u00f0 vera \u00fev\u00ed\u00ad til fyrirst\u00f6\u00f0u a\u00f0 leyfa lesb\u00ed\u00adum a\u00f0 giftast – nema a\u00f0 hugmyndin s\u00e9 s\u00fa a\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfur getna\u00f0urinn, \u00feegar karlma\u00f0ur setur lim sinn inn \u00ed\u00ad konu, s\u00e9 st\u00f3ra m\u00e1li\u00f0. \u00dea\u00f0 getur fjandakorni\u00f0 ekki veri\u00f0 hugsunin?<\/p>\n
Ergo: Steinunn & f\u00e9lagar hlj\u00f3ta a\u00f0 geta fellt sig vi\u00f0 lesb\u00ed\u00aduhj\u00f3nab\u00f6nd – nema \u00feau s\u00e9u \u00e1 m\u00f3ti t\u00e6knifrj\u00f3vgunum og \u00fe\u00e1 jafnt hj\u00e1 lesb\u00ed\u00adum og gagnkynhneig\u00f0um p\u00f6rum.<\/p>\n
(N\u00fa myndu einhverjir segja a\u00f0 \u00fat fr\u00e1 \u00feessari barnmi\u00f0ju\u00f0u n\u00e1lgun v\u00e6ri r\u00e9ttara a\u00f0 l\u00ed\u00adta \u00e1 hj\u00f3nabandi\u00f0 sem stofnun til a\u00f0 ala upp b\u00f6rn, frekar en bara a\u00f0 b\u00faa \u00feau til. \u00dat fr\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed\u00ad v\u00e6ri e\u00f0lilegt a\u00f0 vi\u00f0urkenna hommahj\u00f3nab\u00f6nd, \u00fear sem b\u00f6rn alast oft upp vi\u00f0 sl\u00ed\u00adkt samb\u00fa\u00f0arform – en l\u00e1tum \u00fea\u00f0 n\u00fana liggja \u00e1 milli hluta.)<\/p>\n
En h\u00f6ldum \u00fe\u00e1 \u00e1fram me\u00f0 r\u00f6kin um hj\u00f3nabandi\u00f0 sem barnaframlei\u00f0slustofnun. \u00deau vekja \u00f3hj\u00e1kv\u00e6milega upp spurningar um hva\u00f0 gera skuli vi\u00f0 f\u00f3lk sem k\u00fds a\u00f0 giftast en sannarlega getur ekki e\u00f0a vill ekki eignast b\u00f6rn. Hva\u00f0 me\u00f0 konur sem komnar eru \u00far barneign? F\u00f3lk sem vegna veikinda e\u00f0a f\u00f6tlunar getur ekki eignast b\u00f6rn – e\u00f0a \u00fe\u00e1 sem kj\u00f3sa a\u00f0 gera \u00fea\u00f0 ekki, hvort heldur er vegna f\u00e9lagslegra a\u00f0st\u00e6\u00f0na e\u00f0a hafa einfaldlega ekki \u00e1huga \u00e1 b\u00f6rnum? V\u00e6ntanlega teldist \u00fea\u00f0 si\u00f0laust af \u00feessu f\u00f3lki a\u00f0 ganga \u00ed\u00ad hj\u00f3naband – og spurning hvort prestar \u00e6ttu ekki a\u00f0 neita a\u00f0 gefa \u00fea\u00f0 saman? \u00c9g s\u00e9 a.m.k. ekki r\u00f6kin fyrir \u00f6\u00f0ru.<\/p>\n
\u00deess utan er hj\u00f3nabandi\u00f0 l\u00f6ngu h\u00e6tt a\u00f0 vera s\u00fa barnaframlei\u00f0slustofnun sem \u00e1\u00f0ur var. \u00d3l\u00f6f Gar\u00f0arsd\u00f3ttir sagnfr\u00e6\u00f0ingur og okkar helsti s\u00e9rfr\u00e6\u00f0ingur \u00ed\u00ad dem\u00f3graf\u00ed\u00adu, hefur teki\u00f0 saman t\u00f6lur yfir \u00fer\u00f3un \u00ed\u00ad fj\u00f6lda \u00f3skilgetinna barna (sem er v\u00ed\u00adst hugtak sem b\u00fai\u00f0 er a\u00f0 leggja til hli\u00f0ar). \u00dear kemur \u00ed\u00ad lj\u00f3s a\u00f0 langflest b\u00f6rn f\u00e6\u00f0ast utan hj\u00f3nabands \u00e1 \u00cdslandi. Hlutfalli\u00f0 er a\u00f0 mig minnir 75-80%. Og ef einungis eru k\u00f6nnu\u00f0 fyrstu b\u00f6rn m\u00f3\u00f0ur, \u00fe\u00e1 er hlutfalli\u00f0 n\u00e6r 95%.<\/p>\n
\u00deetta \u00fe\u00fd\u00f0ir \u00ed\u00ad raun a\u00f0 hj\u00f3nabandi\u00f0 hefur fengi\u00f0 n\u00fdtt hlutverk. \u00dea\u00f0 er ekki lengur \u00feessi nau\u00f0synlegi undanfari barneigna (og m\u00e1 raunar deila um a\u00f0 hva\u00f0 miklu leyti \u00fea\u00f0 haf\u00f0i \u00feessa st\u00f6\u00f0u \u00ed\u00ad gegnum t\u00ed\u00ad\u00f0ina). \u00deess \u00ed\u00ad sta\u00f0 er \u00fea\u00f0 \u00e1liti\u00f0 krydd \u00ed\u00ad tilveruna – \u00e1tylla til a\u00f0 lyfta s\u00e9r upp og \u00ed\u00ad lei\u00f0inni gulltryggja \u00e1kve\u00f0na r\u00e9ttarfarslega st\u00f6\u00f0u, sem \u00fe\u00f3 er a\u00f0 langmestu leyti trygg\u00f0 me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed\u00ad \u00feegar f\u00f3lk skr\u00e1ir sig \u00ed\u00ad \u00f3v\u00ed\u00adg\u00f0a samb\u00fa\u00f0 (\u00fer\u00e1tt fyrir fl\u00f6kkusagnir um a\u00f0 \u00e1 \u00feessu s\u00e9 mikill munur).<\/p>\n
N\u00fa giftum vi\u00f0 Steinunn okkur \u00ed\u00ad haust. \u00c1 okkar huga snerist s\u00e1 gj\u00f6rningur fyrst og fremst um a\u00f0 f\u00e1 tilefni til a\u00f0 halda veislu me\u00f0 vinum okkar. Vi\u00f0 litum ekki svo \u00e1 a\u00f0 sj\u00e1lf giftingin f\u00e6li \u00ed\u00ad s\u00e9r neina s\u00e9rstaka breytingu \u00e1 st\u00f6\u00f0u okkar og h\u00f6gum – \u00fev\u00ed\u00ad s\u00ed\u00ad\u00f0ur a\u00f0 vi\u00f0 teldum okkur vera a\u00f0 undirgangast miklar skuldbindingar. \u00dea\u00f0 ger\u00f0um vi\u00f0 \u00feegar vi\u00f0 \u00e1kv\u00e1\u00f0um a\u00f0 eignast saman barn. S\u00fa \u00e1kv\u00f6r\u00f0un var miklu st\u00e6rri og \u00e1byrg\u00f0arfyllri en s\u00fa sem f\u00f3lst \u00ed\u00ad \u00fev\u00ed\u00ad a\u00f0 efna til veislu og breyta skr\u00e1ningunni \u00e1 hj\u00faskaparst\u00f6\u00f0u hj\u00e1 Hagstofunni. Og \u00feannig held \u00e9g a\u00f0 \u00feorri f\u00f3lks l\u00ed\u00adti \u00e1 hj\u00f3nabandi\u00f0 \u00ed\u00ad dag.<\/p>\n
\u00deess vegna held \u00e9g a\u00f0 bar\u00e1tta Steinunnar J\u00f3hannesd\u00f3ttur s\u00e9 fyrirfram t\u00f6pu\u00f0. H\u00fan er nefnilega a\u00f0 reyna a\u00f0 verja hj\u00f3nabandshugtak sem er ekki lengur vi\u00f0 l\u00fd\u00f0i. Hj\u00f3nabandi\u00f0 er ekki lengur s\u00fa barnaframlei\u00f0slustofnun sem \u00fea\u00f0 \u00e1\u00f0ur var – og vilji Steinunn hverfa aftur til \u00feess t\u00ed\u00adma er ekki n\u00f3g fyrir hana a\u00f0 standa gegn lagabreytingartill\u00f6gu K\u00f6tu og f\u00e9lag, h\u00fan \u00feyrfti helst a\u00f0 hefja bar\u00e1ttu fyrir \u00fev\u00ed\u00ad a\u00f0 banna f\u00f3lki a\u00f0 stunda kynl\u00ed\u00adf fyrir hj\u00f3naband e\u00f0a \u00ed\u00ad \u00fea\u00f0 minnsta a\u00f0 endurreisa hugtaki\u00f0 „\u00f3skilgetin b\u00f6rn“ og lj\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed\u00ad fyrri merkingu.<\/p>\n
Einhvern veginn er \u00e9g n\u00fa ekki alveg a\u00f0 fara a\u00f0 sj\u00e1 \u00fea\u00f0 gerast…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Steinunn J\u00f3hannesd\u00f3ttir og Katr\u00ed\u00adn Jakobsd\u00f3ttir t\u00f3kust \u00e1 um hj\u00f3nabandshugtaki\u00f0 \u00ed\u00ad sj\u00f3nvarpinu \u00ed\u00ad g\u00e6r. Steinunn hefur veri\u00f0, \u00e1samt EInari Karli manni s\u00ed\u00adnum og 2-3 prestum, har\u00f0asti andst\u00e6\u00f0ingur \u00feess a\u00f0 samkynhneig\u00f0ir f\u00e1i a\u00f0 ganga \u00ed\u00ad hj\u00f3naband. \u00deau hj\u00f3nin hafa \u00ed\u00ad vi\u00f0leitni sinni til a\u00f0 byggja br\u00fdr yfir til andst\u00e6\u00f0inga sinna m.a. stungi\u00f0 upp \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed\u00ad a\u00f0 b\u00fai\u00f0 … Halda \u00e1fram a\u00f0 lesa: Barnaframlei\u00f0slustofnanir<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2045","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/truflun.net\/stefan\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2045","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/truflun.net\/stefan\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/truflun.net\/stefan\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/truflun.net\/stefan\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/9"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/truflun.net\/stefan\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2045"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/truflun.net\/stefan\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2045\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/truflun.net\/stefan\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2045"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/truflun.net\/stefan\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2045"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/truflun.net\/stefan\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2045"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}